Tanya and Annie arrived in time for a swift lunch before we bussed and walked to Highgate Cemetery.  We had a private appointment to visit our father's grave - the West Cemetery is closed to visitors (too dangerous, falling masonry) It is 62 years since he died on August 19 1946, and five years since we last visited.  Tanya had divided our Ma's ashes into three bags, and we scattered them in the area where our Dad is.  Walked all the way home from Highgate Cemetery, had tea and a rest till Brendan arrived, all went out for lovely supper at 500, put them on the bus and walked home in the rain.

A good day.  We achieved what we wanted, and what we think our Ma would have wanted.  If she had thought it possible, she would have wanted to be with him, but she never expressed the desire, because Highgate Cemetery was closed to new burials, so it did not seem possible. 

Everyone is happy now, and we had a hilarious evening - Tanya's children are so funny - made us laugh so much. 

We took several pictures, so that we can easily find the grave again. It is unmarked, he was buried in a "common grave" in the middle of a square.  All around the edges of the square are the "important" graves, and I took this picture to show where you have to go down between the huge monument and the cross.  The land falls away steeply, there are broken gravestones and mud, all overgrown with ivy, and can be quite dangerous.